Moving to a new home permanently or for respite, especially when you’re in foster care can be one of the hardest things to go through. I know because I’ve been there more times than I can count. Every move feels like starting over, and it’s normal to feel scared, angry, or just plain confused.
Here’s what I learned about moving to a new foster home, and some things that helped me adjust:
1. It’s okay to feel a lot of emotions
You might feel excited, nervous, sad, or even angry. All of that is normal. Moving means leaving behind people, places, and routines you’re used to, so give yourself permission to feel what you feel.
2. Ask questions — even if they feel hard
It’s okay to ask your new carers about what your room will be like, when you’ll get to see your old friends, or what the rules are. Knowing what to expect can help you feel more comfortable. Your carer will most likely have many questions for you, such as what you like for dinner and your interests. This can be overwhelming at first.
3. Bring things that remind you of home
A photo, a stuffed toy, a favourite book — small things can make a big difference in a new place. When I moved into care I bought a few of my favourite toys to help me feel more at home.
4. Give yourself time
Adjusting takes time. Don’t expect to feel “at home” right away. It might take weeks or even months to feel settled, and that’s okay. Sometimes it may not feel like home because it’s not the right place. You can bring this up to your social worker at your next meeting and ask if they can do anything.
5. Find one thing you like about the new home
It could be a favourite snack, a spot outside, an animal or a kind person in the house. Focusing on the good things can help when it’s tough.
6. Reach out if you need help
If you’re feeling overwhelmed, talk to someone you trust — a social worker, sibling, teacher, family member or even another foster child. You’re not alone.
Moving isn’t easy. But with time and support, you can find your feet in a new home. Remember, you’re stronger than you think.
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